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This time, we’re going to discuss a topic that’s quite ’dear’ to me - cunnilingus. The reason it’s special to me is that it has been the reason for MANY of my most erotic and powerful orgasms!
As a sex expert and consultant, I can tell you that many women (and men) have so many misconceptions about cunnilingus that they stop from engaging in it altogether. What a mistake! Cunnilingus is one of the best ways a man can show his partner he cares. For us women, it’s one of the most pleasurable things we can experience sexually! As for your relationship, what better way to indicate to each other that you trust one another.
Furthermore, it’s been said that almost 75% of women do not experience an orgasm by sexual intercourse alone BUT experience it more when their clitoris is directly stimulated, often by her partner performing cunnilingus on her.
So for women, cunnilingus helps alleviate sexual frustration! As for men, gone are the feelings of inadequacy that you can’t make her ’come’.
However, sadly, cunnilingus is surrounded by many ’myths’ that prevent couples from engaging in them. For instance, one of my female clients said that every time she hears the word cunnilingus she thinks of fungi or bacteria.
Unfortunately, she shares this thought with her partner way too often so in the end, he too got uninterested in performing cunnilingus on her!
So for my succeeding articles, I will show you just how pleasurable cunnilingus can be and how it can help rev up your sexual life. Before I’m done, you’ll be wanting to smack your head as to why you waited this long to try it!
Cunnilingus 101
Cunnilingus is the practice of performing oral sex using one’s mouth, lips and tongue. Its purpose is to sexually stimulate female genitalia. By that definition, the goal of cunnilingus is not to bring about orgasm but MANY women claim - including me! - that it’s one of the most effective ways to achieve one!
Cunnilingus came from the Latin words cunnus, which means vulva, and lingua, which means tongue. In today’s more ’open and modern’ culture, it’s often referred to as getting down on her, eating her, muff diving, and so on.
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t’s not really a ’forbidden’ topic anymore, it used to be! In fact, the act was even once considered ’immoral’ in Western society. Contradicting this belief is the Chinese Taoism belief pertaining to endurance (long life).
According to Taoism, loss of bodily fluids means loss of energy. Does this sound contradicting? Not at all when you consider this: Taoism believes that by taking in the vaginal fluids of your partner you can increase your own vitality.
Tantric sex text (Indian culture) also touts taking in bodily fluids as a form of attaining a ’higher’ sense of self.
Dealing with Unfounded Fears about Cunnilingus
Many men (and women partners) fall under the misconception that cunnilingus is simply a matter of licking a woman’s clit. Don’t forget that just like ANY human sexual behavior, techniques applied and responses differ from person to person, and relationship to relationship. Take my client Judy (real name withheld for privacy) for example.
Judy’s first experience of cunnilingus was not good at all, affecting succeeding ’explorations’ of this oral sex technique. Her boyfriend - we’ll just call him John - was a bit rough on her while he was eating her out and she didn’t find it pleasurable at all. To make matters worse, he gave a comment that she sort of smelled funny down there, which obviously freaked - and emotionally and sexually - scarred Judy for a long time.
In her succeeding relationships, she refused cunnilingus outright but in a night of heated passion with someone, he went down on her before she could stop him and she was so distraught that she just couldn’t let go of her inhibitions and radiate in the sexual pleasure. Needless to say, she didn’t come and her partner, a truly nice guy, started to think the problem was him!
Luckily, Judy was able to address this unfounded fear of cunnilingus just in time, enabling her to keep her man AND finally experience an orgasm she has never felt before! You can safely bet that Judy simply adores cunnilingus and, according to her, she can’t have enough of it!
So shouldn’t you be going down on your partner tonight and try to pleasure her with one of the best sexual ways possible?
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